12 Weeks With Clay

I feel like it was yesterday that I was writing Clay’s 8 week update. And now here we are with an almost-3-month-old baby! Time really does fly by, as cliche as that is. Which is exactly why I’m writing these updates – so I can remember at least some of it! Here’s what’s new with Clay.


[LOOSE] SCHEDULE

Clay wakes up for the day around 7am, which is perfect. I try to get up at 6 or 6:30 so that I can get ready before he wakes up and then I just have to worry about getting him ready before we leave the house.

He naps less during the day now and is really great at putting himself to sleep once we lay him down. The trick to that was I started putting him in his bassinet or Rock N Play while he was drowsy, but not sleeping. I usually hold him for naps at least once a day since that phase doesn’t last forever. He’s just so snuggly!

He eats four ounces at a time about every three hours. When he’s hungry he goes from happy to mad in about five seconds! It’s really the only time that he ever hysterically cries, but once you get him the bottle he’s a-okay. I can relate. 🙂

EATING

Clay was exclusively breastfed until he was about five weeks old and I developed an awful case of mastitis (the worst that my OB had seen since she’s been practicing!). You can read more about that here. Since I had an open wound on my right breast, I wasn’t able to nurse or pump on that side for almost three weeks. I continued pumping on the left side and could get a decent amount for awhile, but definitely not enough to exclusively breastfeed, so we started supplementing with formula.

Once I was healed completely, I started pumping again and tried everything to increase my supply. Literally everything. My doctor even wrote me a prescription for something that was supposed to help, but it didn’t do anything. I kept getting less and less every time. I would sit there for at least a half-hour every session and get maybe an ounce if I was lucky.

All that to say… I’m officially retiring my boobs. I’m sad about it because I really enjoyed breastfeeding, but it just wasn’t in the stars this time, I guess. Everything went really well from day one until mastitis. I could keep trying, but I really feel like it’s a waste of my time at this point. I don’t feel guilty about stopping, but I just wish it hadn’t ended so soon. I’m just glad that Clay is happy and healthy!

SLEEPING

In my last update, I had mentioned that I wanted to start some sort of sleep training soon. Since then, we’ve implemented a bedtime routine that we’ve been sticking to and it’s helped a ton! Almost immediately he started sleeping longer stretches at a time.

I usually do the bedtime routine since Tyler’s work schedule changes week-to-week. I started getting Clay ready for bed around 8pm. Sometimes he’s still sleeping from his last nap or has just woken up shortly beforehand. I still always start the routine at that time (give or take 15 minutes) so that eventually he’ll get used to that.

All I do for his “routine” is change his diaper, put on his pajamas (or a different set of pajamas – haha!), swaddle him (this is the only one we use with him – it’s great!), turn the lights down and the fan on, feed him (I usually sing the same song while he’s eating), rock him until he’s starting to fall asleep, then put him in his DockATot in his bassinet and give him his nuk.

He usually falls asleep right away, but he might fuss for up to a half-hour before actually falling asleep. The only time I go in there is if he’s actually crying. If that’s the case, I pick him up until he calms down and then put him back down once he’s drowsy again. If he’s just fussy for a longer period of time, I’ll go in and put his nuk back in his mouth and he’s usually fine. He rarely cries at bedtime and I’m so grateful that he goes down so easily!

At this point, he’s consistently sleeping from 8:30pm to 2 or 3am. When he wakes up that time, I’ll feed him again and then he goes right back to sleep after he’s done eating. He usually wakes up again around 5am and all I have to do is give him his nuk and he’ll sleep until 7am. He’s so close to only waking up the one time and I can’t wait!

MILESTONES

Clay is smiling alllll the time now. And we’re obsessed with it. He’s starting to mimic us when we smile at him. He’s honestly the cutest thing.

He tracks moving objects and [sometimes] grasps toys. He’ll watch us if we walk past him or leave the room. He follows toys when we move them in front of his face. It’s so cool to see him start to like something simple like a little toy. It makes him seem more human and less baby, if that makes sense!

Clay has “conversations” with us. He’s making more noise now and will “talk” back and forth with us. He usually gets really excited when we talk to him and will kick and wave his arms around a ton.

He slept through the night for the first time! Randomly, he slept for 9 hours straight one night and 11 hours the next night! I’m not sure what we did differently those nights, but that long of a stretch hasn’t happened since. I can’t believe how great I felt after those two amazing nights of sleep.

LIKES + DISLIKES

Clay likes being naked, talking, kicking his feet and waving his hands, eating, watching TV, his Wubbanub, hanging out with his daddy, people singing to him or listening to music, and sitting up.

Clay dislikes being hungry for longer than 15 seconds and being still for too long. He’s happy and content most of the time!

WHAT ELSE WE’VE BEEN UP TO

Not a whole lot really! In the winter we pretty much come home from work and hibernate. We went to one a couple of our nephew’s wrestling meets (he’s six, so it’s pretty adorable!) and they were really fun. Wrestling is huge in our area (my high school won the state championship like 40 years in a row or something). Tyler wrestled from kindergarten through senior year of high school and then coached at the middle school for a bit, so he has a lot of fun watching!

I went to see The Greatest Showman twice because obviously. I read a couple books. Finished re-watching Parks & Rec. Started re-watching Top Chef Masters and My Mad Fat Diary. You know. Really exciting stuff.

Our lives are pretty much consumed by the Olympics right now because OBVIOUSLY. I am obsessed with the Olympics and have no shame about it. #USA

HOW I’M DOING POSTPARTUM.

I’m completely recovered from my crazy bout with mastitis. All I have left is a little battle scar. 🙂 The rest of recovery has gone really smoothly. I feel 98% back to “normal.” Last week my hair started falling out, which is lovely. Not in super huge clumps like you see in those viral videos about postpartum hair loss, but there’s definitely more hair than usual going down the drain when I shower.

I’m back down to my pre-pregnancy weight and can fit into all my clothes again, although they fit differently than before. I was wearing lower-rise jeans before and those just aren’t comfortable at this point, so I plan on investing in some nicer, high-waisted pairs (let me know if you have any recommendations!).

My hormones have balanced back out and I haven’t had any crazy emotional moments like I did in the first few weeks. Like I said before… I feel pretty normal again. The new normal, anyway.


That’s pretty much it. Life is really good. I’m getting a little more sleep than before. I’ve got a happy and healthy baby. I really can’t complain!

About Leah Van Ert

Leah is newly wed to her high school sweetheart and is a church secretary by day and blogger by night. She firmly believes in spending a little extra on high-quality cuisine, sleeping in, and the healing power of a good cup of tea. She currently lives in central Wisconsin where she was born and raised (and, yes, the stereotype is true - we really do love cheese).